Thieves: Stop Stealing. The Rest of Us: Stop Enabling the Thieves

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“May I see your license?” requested the Home Goods cashier.

“Why?” I asked.

“I think customers are allowed 10 returns without a receipt, then they are rejected for any store credit…?” she was fairly certain, despite her question.

There were three tablecloth charges on one receipt, and the receipt for the 4th tablecloth was laying on my kitchen island at home. 

I handed over my license, contemplating the absurdity. Retailers across America are being robbed daily, the thieves no longer running out the doors fearing arrest, nor hiding the items under their coats, but calmly and smugly pushing cartfuls of merchandise right out the front doors. But a paying customer returning a $12.99 tablecloth sans receipt, gets her license scanned into some random retail system to ensure I don’t return more than 10 items without a receipt?🙃

We all know what’s next in this madness…a hard copy letter stating:  Dear valued customer, we regret to inform you that our servers were recently compromised during the time period when you visited our stores…” Not just your credit card but also a copy of your license. 

Remember when retailers added cameras to certain aisles? You would be perusing nail polish when a sign above reminded, “smile, you’re on camera”! Silly retailers, the cameras were no deterrent for the increasingly emboldened in our country who are unwilling to earn but remain very committed to stealing.

How about sunscreen, razors and toothbrushes sealed in glass cases? Waiting for an employee to unlock a case housing basic toiletries is a time-waster. Like thousands of others, I now order even toiletries online.

Lenders appear to be escalating the issue of financial unaccountability. Friends who have been in banking for 30 years claim extensive credit is being granted to people with either no intention or ability to repay the debt.

In my last Human Resources role, I personally engaged with a group of employees who shared their nonchalant attitude toward racking up thousands on credit cards with no plan to pay. The number of offers with “no proof of income needed” and “no credit checks” are shocking. Someone is paying and it’s not those using fake IDs and bogus addresses.

Good people understand the extensive questioning and background checks required at church before being permitted near children. We accept walking in our socks through airport security to ensure our safety. Where is the line drawn for those of us who are annoyed all-of-the-time running basic errands and living like a normal person in society?

There isn’t one. Lines began blurring years ago. Today, moral lines promoting right and wrong are being erased entirely, dismissed as radical and unfair.

Despite the elevated volume yelling, “bias!” and “unjust!” when simple personal accountability is requested… when paying vs. stealing is expected… ethical people will not be deterred. Robbery in all its forms is wrong.

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Paying for Other’s Bad Behavior is Making Me a Little Cranky: Thieves: Stop Stealing. The Rest of Us: Stop Enabling the Thieves

20 responses to “Thieves: Stop Stealing. The Rest of Us: Stop Enabling the Thieves”

  1. chihuahuagirl3 Avatar

    It’s true. And it still shocks me. My local Walgreens says people fill up a shopping cart and walk right out the door without paying. My local Food Lion puts each bar of soap in a locked plastic box that has to be opened at the register. When I asked about that they told me it’s because people steal soap like crazy. Wow. Boggles my mind!! 😳

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      It makes me so sad for those getting older who prefer a Walgreens vs shopping in a large Wegmans, HEB or other supermarket. The point of the corner pharmacy expanding its selection to food and home decor-along with prescriptions-was of course to make more money, but it was a win-win for those who like picking up milk with their Rx. The fear of merely being knocked over during the daytime robbery is sometimes enough to prevent the person from walking into their local pharmacy (depending on where they live).
      Thank you for the comment to this post.

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  2. equipsblog Avatar

    You raise some great points. Several years ago, I saw people looting after a hurricane. I am not justifying looting and could understand the need for things like safe drinking water or food. When the looting turned from thing needed to sustain life to large electronics at a time when the electricity was forecast to be off for at least weeks, it became a looting for wants rather than needs. Again I am not justifying looting and can more easily understand what people do in life threatening situations.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      It must have been a moment for you, witnessing looting in real time. To personally be present in that chaos had to be unsettling. Needless to say (but I will anyway for clarification😄) this post is focused on the 99% of the daily activity, not in a crisis when a Dad needs water for his children.
      I completely understand your point about life threatening situations and it’s an interesting contribution to the topic of theft. I very much appreciate your comment this morning. Thank you.

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      1. equipsblog Avatar

        My previous statement was highly (and unintentionally) inaccurate. I saw this on television and not real time. Your focus on Dad needing water for his children was a more precise statement of what I meant. Thanks for the nuance.

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        1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

          Oh, ok, glad you weren’t in the middle of it. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts on this.

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  3. Looking for the Light Avatar

    Banana Republic started that type of return even with receipt back in the early 90’s, I was appalled. I don’t like to try on clothes in the store for the very reasons you mentioned! Privacy. I stopped shopping there shortly after. Theft has gotten so out of had that I can see a day when each store will have to buzz you in one to two at a time. Yet, 1992 when I was in England we went to a Rolling Stones concert at Wembley Stadium and it had no reserved seats. People lined up single file, no one tried to cut in line, we brought our own food and drinks, brought 2 young children and sat in the high bleachers for the kids. When they opened the doors no one ran in, it was not chaos it was simply a stroll to find the right seat. America for I am proud to be but for a veery long time society in general is self-centered, high in theft and can’t even manage itself. At least in the cities, large of small theft is still Ann issue, maybe the towns far away from the cities have more normal people for which I crave. I had my entire personal info released in a data breach in Jan. and it’s was a nightmare for 3 months and I have to look over my shoulder for the rest of my life. I even stopped using my credit card. I pay using PayPal and it takes it straight from my bank account. In the 22 years I’ve been with PayPal I’ve never had an issue. You hit the nail on the head with this one and it’s a damn shame. 🙂

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      I also have wondered if we will be asked to wait outside doors and only be allowed in stores with a couple other consumers in the future. During Covid we got a glimpse of that.
      Theft of personal data takes this conversation to another level. It is a major, deeply personal violation of privacy and leaves hard-working families in financial ruins for years. Managing that mess becomes a part time job for those I know who it happened to. I’m sorry to read about what you have dealt with.
      Thank you for the thoughtful comments.

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  4. Cindy Dawson Avatar

    Lawlessness!

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  5. Mama's Empty Nest Avatar

    YES!! This has become absurd and not just in retailers. A friend of mine just had outpatient surgery at a hospital. Her husband was required to hand over his driver’s license just to get a visitor’s pass to sit in the waiting room for her. And they copied his license and downloaded into their computer system. He was very unhappy with that and said he didn’t understand why they needed to do that. Answer: if you want to enter the hospital’s waiting area, you must comply. So if their system is hacked, his license number, photo, and other personal info will be compromised. He was NOT happy to say the least.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      You’re very right that this issue extends well beyond retail. Hospitals, anything related to childcare and other similar “important” locations get that license or you are prevented from activity. All of this making people vulnerable to data/financial theft. AI will no doubt add another layer to this exposure…

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  6. Greg Dennison Avatar

    This… it’s ridiculous.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      Agreed!

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  7. murisopsis Avatar

    I hear you! We had the local K-Mart go out of business well before the chain as a whole folded. And that was all because they were being robbed blind. Back in the day store security would sprint after thieves. Then things changed and it was decided for safety to just let it go…When your inventory walks away without paying there is no way to stay in business! It makes me angry and sad too.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      A decade ago, the mere presence of a security guard “usually”deterred theft in stores that hired one. Now, disrespect and some bizarre sense of entitlement to steal are rampant.
      Thank you for your thoughts.

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  8. Anne Mehrling Avatar

    The sad state of morality is sickening.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      Right…what happened to operating in life with a moral compass?

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  9. Anne Mehrling Avatar

    Sadly that has gone.

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  10. Rachel Avatar

    This is crazy! Thankfully I haven’t noticed things locked up here yet. I can’t believe people will actually rack up credit card debt without the intention of ever paying! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. It’s so sad.

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    1. Mid-Life Mama Avatar

      Yes, I was surprised when a group of people told me out loud it wasn’t their first time working a way around credit card payment. Thanks for the comment-somehow didn’t see this one yesterday!

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